432,812 decisions later: What I've learned about overthinking
With engineers as parents, and a degree in comparative literature, I am, my nature, analytical and, by training, an overthinker. It took 30 years to figure out that the best decisions are made with a strong gut feeling, and a slight dusting of rationality.
Without a strong gut response, I learned that it's important to be patient and to let it formulate. Then when it's strong enough, to let it lead the way.
The other thing that helps in making decisions is a clarity of values. That is, know what's important to you. For some it's money. For others, security. For me, it's freedom.
Happiness, or at least a fulfilled life, comes from knowing yourself, namely what you need to stay emotionally balanced, and then having the courage and ability to pursue those very things.
So don't think your way to a decision. Don't seek the outside
world's approval. And don't let others talk you into something. Get to
know yourself and what you value. Once you know, your
decision-making process starts from within.
Karin Chien is a film producer based in New York. Her projects include The Motel, Undoing, and the upcoming Jack and Diane. Chien also serves as guest curator at Museum of Chinese in America, where she has put together a collection of film series about Chinatown in New York and Chinatowns throughout the world.
